To be honest, I felt scared months before I turned 40 because I thought I was getting old. But when I meditated and looked back on how I overcame the struggles and trials I've been through in the past years and how I become victorious in life today, it made me realize that being forty is a GIFT. A gift from God that is not given to everyone. Sure, I may not be able to do the things that I used to do when I was in my 20s and 30s, but I believe I can still do something as I enter this new season of my life.
I've been through many difficult things in life in 40 years. For example, I didn't have happy memories as a child because my father was a drunkard person and he always beat my mother every time he got home drunk. On top of that, we struggled financially and my parents could not provide us enough food on our table, could not buy what we wanted, and could not send us to a good school. When I was 12, my father died and my mother had to work hard to raise us until we finished college. In fact, I couldn't count the problems, struggles, and tribulations we had been through at that time, but thankfully, God had delivered us from those situations.
Out of those experiences, I learned a lot from them and it benefited me until today. Here are the 40 lessons I've learned since turning 40.
1. Family does matter. Friends just come and go in your life but family sticks with you up to the end.
2. Failures and mistakes are life's lessons to make us better and stronger.
3. Refuse to give up. It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.
4. Each of us is unique. God gave each of us a talent, gift, and ability to do the things he asks us to do.
5. Trials and tribulations in life will help you build your character and be spiritually mature.
6. Don't be jealous of others' success. Look at them as inspiration instead.
7. Be grateful all the time. Be grateful that you can still breathe, walk, talk, have your visions, being able to sleep and wake up.
8. Enjoy your husband, kids, and your home.
9. Your past will not determine your future. It's not how you start your life, it's how you finish it. You can always have a fresh start.
10. Practice delayed gratification.
11. Learn to say no. Don't overcommit to people or things to avoid stress.
12. Be a God pleaser, not a people pleaser.
13. The devil is real and He's the one who gives problems and troubles in our life to distract us from our fellowship with God.
14. Battle begins in the mind. A negative mind produces negative life. A positive mind produces positive life.
15. Pray for those who mistreat you and be quick to forgive. Remember, God is a God of justice and He is our vindicator.
16. Don't be somebody you can never be. Be who you are.
17. Slow down. Live life one at a time.
18. Be a constructive critic.
19. Don't control your kids.
20. Spend some. Save some. Give some.
21. Don't put your money in one basket.
22. Patience is not about waiting. It's about your attitude while you wait.
23. There are slow people to test our patience. So be patient.
24. Education is a continuous process. Keep on learning.
25. Don't trust too much.
26. Cast all your cares, concerns, and worries to God.
27. Don't expect too much from people.
28. Be led by the prompting of the Holy Spirit not by the impulses of the flesh when making a crucial decision.
29. Self-control and discipline are important in order to be successful in life.
31. Let your YES be YES and NO be NO. Have a word of honor.
32. You cannot change a person. Only God can change him/her.
33. You can trust people but do not expect that they will not disappoint you.
34. You cannot be a happy Christian at the same time be selfish.
35. Some people I know who called themselves Christians are miserable.
36. Your 100% trust belongs to God alone.
37. Emotions are fickle. Don't live beyond it.
38. God gave us the spirit of love not the spirit of fear. Don't be afraid to step out in faith.
39. Don't take life too seriously. Have fun, be naughty at times, and throw clean jokes to break the ice.
40. Eat healthily.
I hope you enjoy reading my blog post. If you learn something, don't be shy to comment below and share your thoughts. Have a good day!