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I used to give a certificate of recognition to my students before and  witnessed how the parents feel after receiving fruits out of hard work from their children.

The joy felt by the parents is absolutely relatable! Just a couple days ago,  we received the same certificate from the school which recognizes children who perform well in the class.

It's actually beyond our expectations!

But it doesn't mean we doubted our child's capacity intellectually, but for some of you who do not know yet, Chesska had battled over separation anxiety since the first day of school, which we thought would have greatly affected her overall performance.

However, opposite to what we believe, our child clearly did an awesome job despite the lack of enthusiasm and independence in going to school. In fact, her scores in the test are evident that she can keep up academically with her other classmates.  I know she's too young to understand why she needs to attend school, but am hoping she will overcome her weak points as the time goes by.

A big congratulation to our tot! You did with flying colors.....(boom! confetti fall....)










I know it's too late (or maybe not yet too late ) to diet a few weeks before my delivery!

By the way, when I ate my breakfast today, I still indulge in two cups of rice + a cup of hot milo +  a slice of sweet potato. What a burp! 

It's actually been a thought to start dieting as early as my 1st trimester of pregnancy but I can hardly resist foods to get my cravings satisfied. Anyway,  I'll be undergoing cesarean section so dieting is not that priority to me (hehe). Unlike those who will undergo normal delivery (as they said), should at least follow recommended diet so the baby won't grow fast and big to make the delivery a lot easier.

But what gives me the heads-up to start dieting is when I visited my OB a couple weeks ago for my prenatal check-up. Ideally, before my pregnancy begins, I only weigh 47 kilograms. But when the secretary of the doctor asked me to weigh myself, I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw 58 kilograms on the weighing scale. Oh-My-Gosh!  This would have been the cause why I do get intense cramps from time to time.
Pregnancy at 8 months and 2 weeks
Recent Ultrasound - Baby at 8 months and 1 week
These are the variety of foods that I am planning to prepare daily starting tomorrow (fingers' crossed) without compromising the needed nutrients that every pregnant woman should get.

a. Breakfast 

I can hardly give up rice, but in the meantime,  I will go light breakfast. For example just the other day, I happily settled into a bowl of oats lavishly poured with milk. Oats are packed with plenty of nutrients including a fiber which aid digestion process. Whenever I feel hungry, I back up some slice of fruits or bread between regular meals.


b. Lunch

I am currently working home-based so I feel hungry whenever noon time strikes. During lunch time, I am planning to eat not-so-heavy lunch. For instance, my lunch yesterday, I only ate a handful of rice plus a bowl of red beans with broccoli. This viand is loaded with protein, vitamins, and minerals to keep me energized until my work ends at 3:30 pm.  I see to it to include fruits to get a well-balanced diet. I also take a break to munch a slice of fruits such as apple or bread.

c. Dinner

Like breakfast, I plan to go light dinner as much as possible. Most of the time when I eat too much, I suffer from indigestion and can barely breathe and sleep at night due to bloating. A glass of milk paired with sweet potato or crackers will do.

I do hope I can implement my meal plans religiously. After all, only three weeks left to endure. And there's nothing more exciting than seeing my new baby girlalooo very soon!

















On the one hand, social media like Facebook helps us connect and catch up easily with friends statuses and photos they post. On the other hand, I choose to remain as private as I am now so my friends barely see me post in my FB account.
As you can see, my tummy is as bulky as the cow's and ready to pop.
And speaking of Facebook, allow me to share a story.

Last week, before my online job started, I posted a status on FB (actually a hint about pregnancy symptoms) just to see how my friends reacted. As assuming as I am, I thought my close friends would guess what I was trying to imply. One of the reactions that amused me when one of my childhood friends, who is also a first-time mom, expressed concern that I had to see a doctor at the same time watch my diet.
Oddly, a seasoned mom, who is supposed to guess quickly about my pregnancy, made a joke that I already feel what aging people feel like her. But here comes another friend of mine, Luisa, revealed that I am going to give birth next month.  My friends who were able to read and follow our conversation would have been surprised.

Honestly, I've never posted anything yet about my pregnancy until last week, which marks my 7 months and 3 weeks pregnancy. On my way to 8th month next week. And I'd like to share with you how it really feels when you are on your way to 8th-month pregnancy. I am actually no longer new to these symptoms because I had experienced the same with my first-born. Here they are.

1. Bulky Tummy

Beginning 4th month onwards, my tummy grew faster month by month.  I don't know if "bulky" is the right term, but in my case due to its bulkiness, I feel that my womb seems crowded which limits me from doing what I want. For instance, when Chesska drops her toys or any stuff on the floor, I can hardly pick them up because I can already feel the weight and size of my tummy and it acts as a barrier whenever I want to bend my body. (lol)


2. Leg Cramps 

My home-based job entails long hours of sitting which may have triggered my leg cramps.  What I do is take a break by standing up awhile or putting my legs up. Good to know that husband always came to the rescue to massage the cramped muscle. Good to know that my employer understands my situation and she allows me to take breaks when really needed.


3. Swollen Feet and Hands (edema)

I don't have beautiful feet, to be honest. But looking at my swollen feet makes them uglier (ugh). I already find it normal because I experience this with Chesska when the third trimester of pregnancy begins. Temporarily, I did not wear my wedding ring because I can hardly take it off every time I use the bathroom.

4. Backache

One of the symptoms that I complain the most is a backache. Whenever I stand or walk longer, the ache starts. I make sure to sit or lie down for a while after doing household chores to at least ease the pain.

5. Craving and Aversion

No certain foods that I am really obsessed of. I have never tried to get "lihi"(as what other old folks said) ever since I conceived my first child. But I have been noticing that I ate more than what's only recommended diet for pregnant. Also, whatever foods pop up in my mind, I include them in my shopping list with my next visit at the grocery. While  I am averse to foods being prepared over and over again.

How about you moms? Have you ever experienced the same symptoms? Feel free to share your thoughts below.
















In my previous posts, I mentioned about how Chesska struggled on the first day of school. I also wrote a letter to the teacher, requesting her to find out why Chesska cried during her class which happened during the fourth week of June and making an appointment for a parent-teacher conference. But prior my talk with the teacher, I suspected that my child was somewhat frightened when the teacher allegedly got angry in front of the class as what my child relayed to me. But I soon dismissed the story by the time I talked with the teacher two days after writing her a letter regarding the "crying" issue. I interrogated her as politely as I could with what happened, and I finally realized that my daughter went through separation anxiety. No wonder during the first week of school, she kept begging me to stay by her side all the time. But this issue was already addressed by the teacher, I supposed because I saw some improvement in my child's behavior.

Sorry, it's a long introduction and contrary to the title of this post! (hehe)

By the way, we are almost nearing the end of July. A lot of great things actually happened this month which I regretfully failed to blog (sooooo busy). But the most surprising part (well not totally surprising because I know my child's capacity in terms of academic ) was Chesska's test scores in the first preliminary exam, knowing how she wrestled with separation anxiety over the weeks.

Chesska has aversion to writing but unexpectedly the teacher got Chesska to write her name nicely (applause to the teacher).  She also got a perfect score in the Reading test with the topics involving vowels and beginning sound. As a kid, I had never encountered this type of test until Kinder so I was wondering if a 4-year old could overcome this. Suffice to say, my kiddo did it with flying colors.


While in Math, she got 24 out of 25. The topics consist of shapes and colors. Find out where she got wrong.




This test was done orally and I am clueless how the teacher facilitated the oral test. Maybe my child was just really confused with the shape of the eggplant.

Lastly, her score in Language is 20 out of 25 (not bad!). She got all correct in Test 1.



However, in test 2, she mistakenly matched the name of the persons to the correct picture particularly the carpenter and the singer.

Test IV is the introduction of self which, I believe,  is the weakest part of Chesska's personality. While she was confidently practicing at home days before the exam, she became timid in front of her classmates. If she had met all the criteria below, she would have gotten 23 out of 25 in Language test. But it is no problem at all because Chesska is still going through the adjustment period.


Ironically, seems like I wanted her to get all perfect scores but it's pretty unfair on her part. She's just a child after all. I should have lowered my standard (hehe). From now on, I will train myself to only expect a passing grade and I hope Chesska will keep up the good work and at the same time enjoy the remainder of the preschool days.













We survived one month of regular schooling! But it was not as smooth as I expected!

All along, I thought my 4-year-old daughter, Chesska,   finds big school more enjoyable for she can already gain new friends to mingle and play with. Though she's not a kind of kid who usually takes the first step to make friends. When it comes to the academic side, I believe that she can keep up with her other classmates because she has been home-schooled since last year. I mean, she's no longer new to holding a pen, answering worksheets, coloring, counting, and writing so I am quite confident that she will not be left behind.

However, the issue does not lie there!

Throughout the first week of school, I always accompanied her inside the classroom so she would somewhat feel comfortable with the new place. I even approached her classmates, introducing her name and setting up a play with them (since the teacher is not yet around).   But every time the bell rang and it was time to leave her in the classroom by herself, she started to be anxious. She even begged me to stay with her.  But I told her "mama is just outside watching you, ok?" Then during dismissal, I would find time to talk with her teacher how Chesska was doing, she said Chesska was so quiet and never talked when asked. I oriented the teacher that Chesska is a shy girl, just motivate her to participate.

On the second week, each time Chesska arrived home, I consistently checked how's her school. She gleefully mentioned that they sing and dance (with action). But what bothered me was when she said "mama teacher got angry, she said likes this "grrr" (with gigil action)". "Maybe you and your classmates were misbehaving, that's why teacher was angry", I said.   But I was elated when she began to share stories.

However, during the parent's orientation of the same week, the teacher told me that Chesska had finally a close friend but she and her classmate were running around the classroom so I reprimanded them. At the top of my head, I remember what Chesska relayed to me the other day when the teacher made gigil (having a hard time controlling oneself out of frustration), which I presumed the teacher was angry at my daughter when she and her classmate were running around. But I never confronted her about that. I just let it pass because I understand her. I had been a teacher myself after all.

But on the third week, I already heard Chesska refuse to go to school. Oftentimes,  she would say with a frowning face "Mama Enough School (na), tired Chesska". But I rather chose to ignore her as If we didn't hear her complaints and tried to divert the stories into something else.  But several times in the morning before going to school she would always try to insert in our conversation "I want mama sit with me in school".  As usual, I reasoned out why I couldn't go with her inside the classroom but assured her that everything will be alright eventually.

As the days went by, the situation seems to get worse. Her teacher relayed to my mother that Chesska cried during her class and she didn't know the reason behind. My gut feeling told me that there was something else that had happened so I didn't hesitate to write the teacher a letter.

Just correct the grammar (na lng) because it was hurriedly done.


Dear Teacher,

Greetings!

My mother, who fetches Chesska in school, informed me that Chesska was crying during your class last week.  Chesska arrived home with a disturbing behavior and when I checked her snack, she didn’t even touch it.  I also couldn’t  figure out the reason/s because she wouldn’t tell me. Will you please take a little time from your busy schedule the reasons of crying?

a  Was she bullied in the classroom?
b. Do you think she is just anxious from being away from us (parents)?
c. Was she unable to make friends?
d. Was she embarrassed?
e. Did she feel OP (out-of-place)?
f. Did she feel intimidated?

Please note that Chesska always arrives at school before 7:00 am. There might have been things that had happened that you didn’t know.

Also, two weeks ago until now, she kept begging us that she didn’t want to go to school anymore. This happened when parents were no longer allowed to accompany their children inside the classroom. We have already used all our resorts just to convince her to attend school. Sometimes it is frustrating! I believe that Chesska can keep up academically, perhaps, she has still difficulty adjusting to the new environment and socializing with her classmates and teachers as well.

Kindly contact us immediately if her behavior persists such as crying, anxiousness, feeling of intimidation, or whatever you may have observed
.
If you advise her to see a guidance counselor for further behavioral assessments or whatever interventions you may want to do to improve her behavior,  just text me or send me a note. We are willing to talk with you or with the guidance counselor in the soonest possible time.

Thank you very much!

Truly yours,

Mother


I figured that Chesska may have been frightened when she was reprimanded by her teacher but I can't jump to a conclusion right away until she will respond to my letter or set a talk with me. I will let you know.














Our future seems secured when we become a member of Social Security System or SSS. I have been a member of SSS for over 10 years now which entitles me for a monthly pension whenever I reach 60 years old. I thought I would be forever happy until 60! Until I found out lately that my membership was put in uncertainty. I hate when I knew it! 

A couple of months ago, when I submitted my maternity notification, the medical staff saw some discrepancy on my records. He said my first application in 2004 prior to my employment was encoded as a voluntary member which should have been self-employed based on their policy. (It looks like that I was not properly registered). He added that it might have affected or delayed my maternity benefits whenever I want to claim it. I felt so disappointed!  I wanted to rant at him but I tried to keep myself calm ( it's not his fault after all). He asked me if I was able to keep my RS -1,  "sorry sir, our house was burned 10 years ago!", I muttered.  I brought nothing except my clothes worn that time and a box of clothes. So he advised me to go downstairs (since the medical office is located on the second floor ) to get the documents he had suggested me to comply. 

Unsatisfied with his explanation, I went to the right person to clarify things. Since a lot of people queuing, I procured a priority number given only for the pregnant, old, and disabled person. Then when my turn came, I explained to the lady my situation and bombarded her with questions. 

1. Ma'am, it's my 4th time to claim such benefits including sickness benefits, why just informed me now that there's a discrepancy in my record?

2. Ten years has passed, how come your company has not had a single moment to check my records? 

3. Why did your staff, in the first place, approve my application as a voluntary member where they know much more the policy than me? 

She just answered all my questions as this: "Ma'am, the recent encoding system in SSS has now become stricter". Her answer was still vague to me. It doesn't make sense at all.

After that she told me to fill up the RS-1 to change my status from voluntary to self-employed plus I have to execute an affidavit, stating there my source of income in 2004 when I first applied in the SSS and have it notarized to the lawyer and attached a map where the SSS personnel can conduct their investigation. To be honest, I can barely remember what was my source of income way back then. Well, you can't blame me, it's been a long time. When I got home murmuring, my mother told me that she was able to save my Sara Lee I.D. from the fire. Yeah, I remember that I was (pala) a Sara Dealer so I wrote in my RS-1 form my proof of income and attached my ID in the affidavit as a supporting document. When I searched on the internet the address of the company, I found out that Sara Lee no longer existed. I just learned that the Tupperware and Sara Lee have been merged. But I was still a bit skeptical whether to use my position being a dealer after knowing everything but still I take chances. I still pursue it.

After one month, I received a text message from SSS saying,

Ma'am Jenniffer Lee. Good pm. This is from SSS (whose branch I won't mention ). Please visit our office regarding the affidavit you submitted. You need to submit a Tupperware account number to verify as a dealer. Look for (I won't mention the name). 

What?

You see the hassle it brings me? With a bulky stomach (since I am pregnant), I kept going back to SSS. I personally approached the SSS manager to pour out my grievances. I said, "Ma'am I am not a Tupperware dealer, I am a Sara Lee dealer then". Why did your investigator demand me a Tupperware dealer account? (It appears to me that the investigator himself was confused ). So she asked me what are the other sources I had aside from being a dealer.  Oo nga pala, I just remember that I had been a tutor before I became a teacher in a private school. So she suggested me to execute again an affidavit and include a map of the home addresses of my tutees for re-investigation.


By the way, I am a bit bothered with the 2nd statement that says "Should SSS determine any misrepresentation......"  But I am hopeful that they will approve my affidavit.

Last week, Thursday, I already submitted the requirements needed to the SSS and I am looking forward that they will act on it immediately so my record will be corrected as soon as possible. My delivery is fast approaching, sometime in September, and I am depending half of my expenses on the maternity benefits that I may have gotten from them.

Before I end, here are the recommendations I would like the SSS to do to improve their services.

a. Conduct orientation for beginners to discuss the policy, benefits, and the process of application.

Like what happened to me, I am totally unknowledgeable that voluntary member is not allowed during the first application. If I had known, I would have filled up the correct one in the application form.

b. Provide regular seminars to the SSS staff (especially new ones) to remind them of their duties and SSS policies as well.

I have been transacting with different staff for many times when paying monthly contributions, applying for loans, and processing maternity benefits,  but no one was mindful to inform me about my record. Perhaps, the staff themselves especially the new ones didn't know their job well. If they had just informed me early, maybe 2 years after the application, I would have corrected my record immediately.

c. Make their computer system fast and updated.

I have registered in the SSS online for 5 years already so I can easily view my contributions, records, loan balance but I still find their system glitchy. I can't view the records in other browsers such as Firefox and Chrome, though I can view my records in Internet Explorer but a little bit sluggish.  I suggest that they will update their system regularly and I wish there's something in the system that will auto-alert the members whenever there are discrepancies in the records. I don't know how it will be done, but I think it's possible!

I know it's a heavy topic, but I believe some of you out there have experienced the same. Feel free to share your thoughts.








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